Making the connection: Social bonding in courtship situations

Journal Article (Journal Article)

Sociologists have long argued that the force of a social bond resides in a sense of interpersonal connection. This is especially true for initial courtship encounters when pairs report a sense of interpersonal chemistry.The authors explore the process of romantic bonding by applying interaction ritual theory, extended and integrated with methods from computational linguistics, to the study of courtship encounters and, specifically, heterosexual speed dating. The authors find that the assortment of interpersonal moves associated with a sense of connection characterizes a conventionalized form of initial courtship activity. The game is successfully played when females are the point of focus and engaged in the conversation and males demonstrate alignment with and understanding of the female. In short, initial heterosexual courtship encounters are associated with a sense of bonding when they reflect a reciprocal asymmetrical performance in which differentiated roles are mutually coordinated. © 2013 by The University of Chicago. All rights reserved.

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Duke Authors

Cited Authors

  • McFarland, DA; Jurafsky, D; Rawlings, C

Published Date

  • May 1, 2013

Published In

Volume / Issue

  • 118 / 6

Start / End Page

  • 1596 - 1649

International Standard Serial Number (ISSN)

  • 0002-9602

Digital Object Identifier (DOI)

  • 10.1086/670240

Citation Source

  • Scopus